SATHYAM PRIYAM HITHAM

|| Sathyam Vadha ||

|| Priyam Vadha ||

|| Hitham Vadha ||


||Sathyam Vadha means talk truth alone.||


We can't express Ultimate Truth.

We can Speak Truth - generally.

According to Thirukural,in certain cases, If a lie ends in goodness,lie also

consider as truth.


||Priyam Vadha Means Talk Sweetly.||


Kind Words has so much power.

The WAY we Speak is More Important than WHAT we Speak.

For Example,If a Mother order her Child to take Food in a Harsh Manner,and

use words filled with Tension and Anger.Does the Child will obey ?.It may

Obey due to Fear,but the Child's heart will get hurts and Pains.

I saw in Some Houses,the mothers used to call their child using the names of

Animals.At that time I'll get anger on them.Simply Producing Child and

Leaving it on Earth like any thing is not good.

Parents should very aware in Child's Growth.They should not wound their

children Psychologically.If they does any mistake Parents should correct it

in Soft manner.The Parents should know the Art of Making a Child in to Good

Human.You may heard this Song;

"Entha Kuzhandhaiyum nalla kuzhandhaithan
Mannil pirakayelae;
Athu Nallavar aavathum Theeyavar aavathum
ANNAI valarpinilae;"

Even After our death our Children should think what a Great Father/Mother I

had.While thinking us they should shed Blissful tears with kindness and Love.
We should act as a Good Friend,Philosopher,well wisher,care taker,Guide to

our Children.

How it is Possible?

First we should have good Ideas and Knowledge.Then We should teach Good

thoughts,words and Actions to childrens, not by Force, but by Kindness and

Kindful words.In such cases 'Priyam vadha - Speaking Kindly' will be More

helpful.

Do You know how rough I am, before 10 Years.I even teared the Swami photos

and broken earth lamps at pooja room,Broken Radio,or any thing else at home,

if i got anger.I changed slowly because of the Kindful words of My Guru.Not

even a kindful word,if he see me with Kindness, My heart will be filled with

calm and joy.So, Kindful words are Most Important for having Good

relationship with Humans.Even a Single Word/sentence may have the power to

break the Relationship which last for several past Years.Words due to sudden

anger or due to any reason May Hurt the opposite Person.In case of Talking we

should be very aware and careful.We May use a Sentence as a Joke,but for the

opposite person it is not a joke,he/she may take it as Serious,So that there

is a possiblity of Losing Relationship with him/her.

You may ask what about in case of dealing bad ones.At that time,act as a Fire

or Tiger.'Priyam Vadha' won't help in case of Stupids and arrogants.If you

have enormous Patience,then you can use Kindful words even to arrogants.High

Maturity is needed for that kind of dealing.


|| Hitham Vatha Means talking Usefully. ||


50 % of problem comes because of talking un wanted things.
Even in case of talking useful things itself, problem may

arise,because,either the opposite person may misunderstand Nor we may don't

know how to deliver our thoughts into words and sentences even in our Mother

Language.

While talking we have to consider situations,the way we speak,the tone we

use,mood of opposite person to whom we talk,the subject we talk.


Talking not only refers words and sentence that we use through our mouth,we

can also talk through letters,Eyes,actions,head,Silence,Music,Smile.

Passing Message from us to others by any Means also included under 'Talking'.

Two Persons,either Mother and Child,Guru and Sishya,Husband and Wife,Friends

who have better understanding can talk to each other simply by thinking

itself.There is no need of talk by expressing their thoughts.what the first

one thinks will be as same as what the second one thinks.In such cases

looking at each other with a simple smile is enough.[You may have seen this

in puranic films that Lord Shiva Looks Mother Parvathi and She too, with a

Single kindful smile, with out talking to each other,that much understand

they are having].